Theres a queer dance in my city in a few weeks. I've never been in a same sex relationship or anything before but I've always considered myself very hetero-flexible. I'm trying to break out of my shell when it comes to social situations and I was wondering, do you think I should go?
This probably seems stupid but I'm kinda 50/50 and I really value your opinon.
I’m a huge proponent of “doing what you want”. Is this going to make you happy? Then go for it! Go ahead, be curious and own it.
I’ve been in a weird place in relation to my sexuality since early December. Evaluating my sex life I’ve come to realize that, thus far, it has consisted of merely fuck buddies and one-night stands. While I’ve come to create wonderful and lasting friendships with some of my fuck buddies (though not with many), I still lack an emotional intimacy that has just recently become more appealing to me. I would like to have sex with someone that I truly care about—I have never had that. The one time I had sexual relations with a guy that meant something to me simply happened because I was too drunk to say “yes” or “no.” I came out of my drunken daze in the middle of it confused and terrified. But that’s a different story…
As for the night I lost my virginity, that night changed my outlook on sex completely. My virgin friends asked, “Do you feel different?” No, I didn’t feel different. I felt nothing except for a little soreness. Sex became just another weekend activity. Since then, for the longest time I took pride in being able to not entwine the physical with the emotional. It was convenient, carefree and entirely easy. I would never get hurt. While other people were off getting their hearts broken because they got too attached, I was enjoying being numb to such things. It was all pussy, no heart. I never stayed the night, never cuddled. Once I didn’t even want B walking me home the next morning. There was no “us”, just me. Well, “me” is a lonely place.
My friend and I would always joke about how we were never picky about our sexual partners because “it’s just sex.” I had no qualms about getting between the sheets with men whose hearts belonged to another’s. It was just sex.
Looking back at all of that I feel like a complete and utter monster. I’m not okay with it. I want to feel something, I want to be picky—shit, I want the fucking heartbreak. I’m tired of one-night stands. I want to know your name; I want to know what music you like. I want you to know that I’m not just “a wild girl” in bed. There is so much more.
I really am sorry that I’ve been so negligent of this blog and of your questions. But right now, in regards to my sexual life, I’m trying to figure out what works best for me, and this blog is part of that. I may have to change what I do with it because I’m not really feeling it. This tumblr is about my sexual awakening and my growth as a sexual being. At the moment I’m self-reflecting on that part of my life and changing what I don’t like and doing my best to move forward towards a place in which I feel at home.
So more and more recently I've caught myself checking out women (I am a girl) and having sexually urges towards some of them. I've never felt like this before and I'm 20 years old. I also have a bf who I love but I just have this new interest in women. Does that happen? I thought most people were aware of their sexual attractions to the same sex earlier on in life, not so randomly.
Nope, that’s totally not out of the ordinary. Women are hot and sexuality doesn’t recognize gender. It doesn’t necessarily mean you’re a lesbian, you might just want to experiment sexually, and that’s totally okay. That said, you also don’t have to act on it if you don’t want to.
What's an orgasm feel like? I'm a 22 year old female. I've had sex with four different partners and I've tried masturbation, but nothing--NOTHING--has ever made me orgasm. I don't feel whole. I feel like there's a very important door to my self that I have yet to open, & I can't find the key. Anywhere. I want to cry from frustration and anger sometimes...
Try different masturbating techniques. If you usually just rub your clit, try insertion or the other way around. Remember, don’t think about orgasming while your masturbating. Clear your mind and enjoy the experience. Touch yourself in different ways, fantasize, watch porn. Don’t be afraid of trying out different things. It’s simply about discovering things your body reacts to in a positive way, whether it’s through a certain way you touch yourself or a vibrator.
I get quite a few odd looks from friends when I am talking about sex with friends and I say that I enjoy going down on a girl more than the act of intercourse itself.
Is it odd that I get more aroused by a womans reaction to my touch that I do during penetration?
I need sex advice. I'm a 30 year old male. I want to sleep with my 20 year old cousin. She's nice, but naive, which makes my attraction to her stronger because I know I could get away with it. I just want to have sex with her so bad. What should I do?
This “I could get away with it” mentality is selfish. You’re being predatory and that’s not fair. Don’t do it for her sake.
Okay, my dedicated and beloved female readers, a lot of you have been inquiring about what to do to make your men go crazy in bed. Here you go: simply dress up in bacon and spread your legs. Kidding (sort of).
While every man differs a bit with his sexual fancies, the difference isn’t much. Get a little spontaneous, get a little dirty, get a little wild á la Black Swan: You’re Natalie Portman right now but you actually really want to be Mila Kunis. That is, give the vanilla a break—try some rainbow sherbert instead. It’s tangy but sweet!
One essential you have to have in your bag of goodies is fantasy. Fantasize, fantasize, fantasize. What makes you lose all sense of dignified control in your panties will more than likely send him reeling as well. Do things you wouldn’t normally do but secretly want to. Blow him away with some sexy lingerie and give him a little striptease. Then extend the show and play with yourself in front of him—but don’t let him touch you. Do you usually swallow? Let him come on you—your breasts, your belly, your lower back…and then lick it up. Another idea for when you go down on him: when he comes, don’t stop and keep sucking. This will intensify the orgasm exponentially and rock his fucking world.
If you’re not up for any of that then just take it slowly. Tease him with barely-there kisses, light caresses, let him see the hunger in your eyes, and make him beg for you. You don’t have to whip out the cuffs but if you have them, use them! The same goes for the blindfold. There’s nothing quite like the passionate agony you get from being totally helpless, naked, and uncontrollably horny…
So there you go, just a few ideas. I hope they work for you and I hope you have fun with it. If any of you have more ideas shoot them my way. I like knowing what’s on your dirty minds.