Anonymous asked: Im 19, and atm it feels like I've pretty much discovered sex. As in I'm with someone who I've never felt this comfortable with ever. I've never really totally enjoyed it till I met him. We've recently started talking about it alot more. And trying new things. But I'm still scared of doing some of the stuff I want to. I lack the confidence when I try to do some things, and get frustrated. Its mainly all him doing the work, and I feel bad. He says he don't mind, but he must right? I just wanted to know if there was some tips you could give me, or stuff to try out? I love your blog, its really helped me with becoming more confident with sex, and opening my eyes to it :)
First of all, it’s great that you guys are talking about what you may want to try out out and experiment with. Communication is the first step. However, you need to remember that not everything you try out for the first time is going to come out perfectly. Sometimes it’s going to be incredibly awkward and, yeah, you’ll get frustrated, but you also just need to pause and try again. Ask your partner for help, trust him. Sex is a two-person activity, you give and take, not just physically but mentally and emotionally.
Also, you don’t have to experiment with the craziest things just yet if you don’t feel totally comfortable with that. Do you always do missionary? Try cowgirl. Remember to support yourself on his chest and ride away. But really, it all just comes down to confidence. It’s okay to be scared, just turn that fear into adrenaline, and remember you’re one hot piece of sexy.
